Chapter 4: Mother Wounds
Today’s Chapter is all about healing mother wounds. This is a big part of my work in service to the community is healing the matriarchy. So much goes back to mother wounds and womb healing.
We are created in our grandmother’s bodies. Meaning that when our grandmother was pregnant with our mother, our mother’s eggs were already forming in her uterus. Science right? But there’s also studies that show how trauma can travel in DNA. They’ve done these studies with rats and other animals where they know fear by what was experienced by their lineage. It’s a survival mechanism.
Before I keep going here I do want to point out that we not only inherit trauma but we inherit blessings as well. So we shouldn’t just sit in the trauma. I know it’s a healing podcast but still there’s a balance, a duality of appreciating the blessings the gifts, the don that has come through your lineage while also working through this shadow work. And no blessing is too small. Whether that is the gift of blessing others with your cooking, cooking your ancestral meals, singing…even if it’s just to yourself or your babies. Whether is something artistic, you don’t have to share this with others. This can be just for you. Your magic.
Now that we got that out of the way, let’s talk about the womb. For wombman, this is where not only where babies come from right, but it’s also our creative centers. And our sacral energy center is connected to our root center. Think about how some women experience back labor (which is the worst by the way) it’s an example of how the sacral and root are connected.
When our personal relationships with our mothers aren’t healthy, it affects our root and our sacral. Why? Because in a perfect world, our mothers are our safe space. Root energy. They held us safely in the womb and they were the first person to hold us when we came earthside. They say that babies within hours of birth can tell who their mom is by their smell. Our mothers are our safe space. And when that nurturing vibe doesn’t follow us into our childhood and adulthood it can cause a disruption to our root and for people with wombs, it can also affect their womb.
So not only can this affect our relationships with ourselves and others…romantic relationships and otherwise…it can also affect our fertility. Our cycles, difficult periods.
And I’m not saying only mother wounds can affect fertility bc that would be crazy. There are other factors like use of birth control and bad breakups etc. But coming from a holistic mindset, meaning incorporating mind body and soul, incorporating both the spiritual and western medicine mindset, mother wounds can have an effect on you energetically and spiritually that can also cause a physical illness such as what I just mentioned.
I just want to make sure I’m clear here.
And I feel like hormonal imbalances such as PCOS and endometriosis are genetic bc of this reason. We are carrying this trauma from our families. This genetic inheritance.
And by now you’re probably like “Jai, how do I work through this” and sometimes it’s just sitting still and listening to your body. Do you have physical pain? Where is it coming from? How are your cycles? What is your intuition telling you? Asking your maternal lineage to pull up and help you with this. As you heal yourself you heal your lineage which makes them stronger and more able to help you. It’s a beautiful ying and yang, give and take. It’s the six of coins energy in tarot, where that card feels more ancestral to me than the 10 of coins.
Speaking of tarot, let’s get into the weekly collective reading:
Also, for those of us that are moms we are working through healing those mother woundss and generational trauma while parenting our kids. We just got back from vacation, we took the kids to Universal studios. My son is obsessed with Harry Potter right now and there was a new ride he wanted to go on. My oldest son and I stayed behind because you know
This is a big topic, and we may have a part two later on in the line, but this can get you started or get you to dig a bit deeper into what your mother wounds might be coming from. That’s the first step so that you can get an idea of what you need to do to heal that. And it can be something small like a daily small habit right like mirror work. Tu no eres bebesita, tu eres bebesota!
Ok so today’s journal prompt: How does my body show me joy? How does my body show me when something is not right?
